Adoption: A Father’s Perspective!

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       As my morning started I received a text from my wife asking me to write our next blog entry.  Her text stated that many people have asked if I would write regarding my perspective.  Once I received the text I began to hyperventilate, brain-storm and then decided I must mow the lawn to take my mind away from the task at hand.  For the next hour between the sneezing, blowing snot rockets due to allergies from the grass and pondering while mowing I decided that I could do this.  So here it goes. 

     First I must ask you this question.  What is the one” thing” that everyone seeks in life? Some have it, some yearn for it, some long for it, some take a long time to find it, some find it early and some have it but don’t realize it.  Most would argue that this “thing” can be the cause and the answer to many of today’s problems.  I am going out on a limb by saying that even the Ten Commandments can be summed with this one word. Have you figured it out yet………………..LOVE.  Love is the answer and really when you think about it things happen in life due to the lack or the abundance of LOVE. 

     You may be wondering how this has anything to do with adoption.  The decision to adopt has everything to do with love.  As I see it our child will have known love from day one.  Many ask how could a mother do that to a child, but I would ask how this is not the ultimate sacrifice of love.  Just as GOD so LOVED us that he gave his one and only begotten son to die for our sins, these mother’s pay the ultimate sacrifice by giving up their children to help provide a better life for them.  Love guided this mother to sacrifice her own need to love, so her child would be provided for since she is unable to.  Next, the love of the Orphanage care givers is immense to try their best to provide the daily needs for these children with little supplies.  Lastly you mix in the Love of the adoptive parents.  Amazing the love of each step in this child’s life is not forgotten nor is it ever lost.  Granted this love for that child may not be realized while he/she is young but at some point they will.  My goal through adoption is to continue this love for one little boy.  

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     Over the last hours while pondering this blog post many thoughts, questions, answers and prayers have been running throughout my mind.  The one thought that sticks with me is how LOVED I have been.  To fathom the Love my heavenly father has given me through giving up his son for my sins.  My heavenly father adopted me before my conception and has continued this love to this day.  He provided me with loving earthly parents that have shaped my life over the years.  While both of my parents are important to me I would like to focus briefly on my earthly father.  My heavenly father has provided me with a loving nurturing earthly father that has provided me with a great skill set and respect for life that I can only hope to pass on to my children.  My goal in life is to pass this on to all my children.  While the orphanage has and continues to provide for our child, I feel a strong calling to continue providing more to him.  As any father knows the love you have for your children is just as strong/intense as a mother’s love.   

     Often a father’s love is shown in a different manner than a mother’s love but it is just as equally important in a child’s life.  I am reminded of a common country song that I grew up listening to called “Daddy’s Hands” by Holly Dunn.  As this song says Daddy’s hands were there when I was crying, like steel when I had done wrong, and there was always love in daddy’s hands.  This adoption is an opportunity for me to pass my heavenly father’s love on to another child in need.  As they say “FAITH, HOPE and LOVE” are important in life but the greatest of these is “LOVE.”